You’re single on Valentine’s Day? Ain’t no thing ‘chicken wing.
Here we are. Another February 14 staring us in the face. Are you single? Do you hate V-Day? Are you thinking this holiday is B.S., while at the same time just wishing you had someone to share it with?
If you’re single, this isn’t the best day of the year. In fact, even the weeks leading up to it are pretty crummy too right? Even if you have a date, is it one you’re excited about? Or did you just get one just to get one?
I want to share with you the idea that a lonely Valentine’s Day can be the kick in the pants you need to get your dating life in order! And by that, you need to rejig your notion of being single.
A while back I was at a friend’s bachelorette party in Vegas and several people at different points in the weekend approached her and yelled, “Don’t do it! Don’t get married! Stay Single!” While It was bizarre and highly inappropriate, it was also fascinating because it sheds a light that a lot of people view being single as an ADVANTAGE.
So here is what I want you to do. Tap into your “unhappy relationship person” brain and think, what is great about being single?? There has to be some advantage, right? You need to discover what that means and exploit it. Here’s an idea:
1. Your time is your time. You have the complete freedom to do whatever YOU want. You don’t have to consult anyone to do anything. No person to beg to come to that thing you always wanted to go try or see people you want to see.
2. That said, what is that thing you always wanted to go try? Now is the time to go do it. Not only will your time be filled not thinking about being single, you may meet people, and you will learn stuff.
3. When you learn stuff and connect with new people, not only do you become a better person, you become a more interesting, dynamic person.
4. When you become a more interesting person, you have more things to talk about.
5. More things to talk about means more meat to put in your online dating profile.
6. When you have a better online dating profile, you get more dates. The more stuff you do, the more you have to talk about on dates!
So let this Valentine’s serve as the reminder that you are in the middle of not a deficiency, but an opportunity, that you may never have again. Say yes to new experiences, go have fun, and take advantage of your freedom in a productive way.
Going forward, as you pull the trigger on all of these experiences, look at these times alone through the filter of “could I have done this if I were in a relationship?” If the answer is no, then your time spent has been irreplaceable and you’re doing something right.
As my Valentine’s treat to you, I’m offering profile writing services and consultations half-off to the first 10 people to contact me for either. Let’s get you ahead of the game for next Valentine’s!